Jane Doe faced weekday mornings (especially on Mondays) with real regret. She
sat at her kitchen table until the very last moment, wishing it were still the
weekend, before driving her car to work. She was grateful for every red light
that delayed her trip. She'd pull into the office parking lot, feel her jaw
clench, and mentally count the hours until she could return to her car to leave
again. She felt as if she'd been sentenced to punishment with no hope of
reprieve. There was no early release program for good behavior, no great perks
or pats on the back for earnest efforts, and no hope of financial advancement
that might allow her some hope of getting out of a miserable situation. She
had bills to pay. She had people at home depending on her. She'd remind herself
of all these things as she parked her car and turned off the ignition. She'd
will herself out of her car, walk up to the front door, and face another day
at a job she didn't enjoy. She'd always allow herself one last moment to
wonder, "Where has the challenge gone? Why doesn't anyone appreciate me?
I wish I could do something different" before she'd open the office door
to start another day
The Jane Doe in this story might be the receptionist at a busy medical office,
or she might be the doctor. She might be the Division Manager for the number
one seller of the number one brand of superior cogs. She might be the waitress
at your favorite restaurant, or the CEO of prosperous company. She might hold
any job, make any salary amount, be any age you imagine, and still be miserable.
No matter what job circumstances you might envision Jane in, the fact is she
feels stuck, with no way out.
When Jane initially considered changing her career path, her first thought
was actually a self-imposed wall. "I can't do this, because. . ." Fill in
the blank . . . Jane could find lots of reasons why she couldn't do something
to change her career. Sometimes it's easier and less frightening to build
walls instead of creating or recognizing possibilities. Jane considered her
obstacles. She considered that maybe she was too old to make a change now.
She thought that she shouldn't because she'd already invested a lot of money
in an education in a different direction. She thought she couldn't because
she had bills to pay, dependents to care for, and obligations to meet. Jane
assumed she could never change her current career path, because she'd done
"this work" for so long she couldn't imagine anyone hiring her to do something
different.
The world is full of people who've followed their dreams, instead of building
walls. Some of these people followed different dreams at different points in
their lives, as their desires and interests changed. They didn't possess magic
powers, weren't smarter than Jane, didn't have connections in high places, but
they did have something Jane may have forgotten she possessed ~ they had a
belief that, with time, with thought, with determination, and with help, they
could make their particular dreams come true. Jane finally came to a point in
her life where she was ready to realize this too, that she could change her
life. And that was the first step, she BELIEVED in herself.
What comes after "believing?" Exploring the possibilities. Jane needed to have
some goal in mind in order to learn how to move closer to it, so she began to
explore the possibilities. She kept in mind that, for the moment, she would
recognize no obstacles. In order to successfully explore, she had to believe
that every door was open wide to her. She could do any job she wanted. She
stopped worrying about what she was "qualified" to do, because that would've
impeded her efforts. Believing in herself meant believing that all things were
possible. So, she began to wonder, "What kind of job would make me excited to
leave for work on Monday mornings?"
Jane began her exploration by finding out what kinds of jobs were currently
"out there." She started with newspaper and Internet classified ads. Here,
she not only discovered various job titles (and what positions were currently
being sought to fill), but she also learned some of the hiring criteria and
responsibilities that went along with these jobs. She kept in mind that she
wasn't looking for jobs for which she currently qualified, but just exploring
the possibilities. She noted what types of jobs captured her attention, which
sounded interesting, challenging, or fun to her. She wrote these job titles
down on her "explore" list. Then she wrote down what it was about each of
these jobs that interested her.
Next, Jane looked for career possibilities in her local Yellow Pages phone
book. She flipped through the pages, looked at various companies, and the
services or products provided, and found job descriptions she had never
considered before.
Jane took her list of job titles, and the reasons why they sounded interesting
to her, to her local public library. She found the librarian and told him that
she was investigating job titles, and wanted more information. The librarian
directed her to various reference guides and books on careers, most notably
the Occupational Outlook Handbook. The Occupational Outlook Handbook gave her
information regarding what the different jobs entailed, what the work environments
were like, what criteria she needed to meet for employment, and what kind of
salary ranges she could expect. As she read through the various job descriptions,
she found that some of the job titles on her explore list didn't really fit
her interests, after all, so she crossed those off. At the same time, she
located other positions that were more appealing to her than she would have
imagined from the job titles alone, so she added those to her list. As her
list grew, she again paid particular attention to what it was about each of
these jobs that captured her interest. She thought about why she might enjoy
them. She considered what natural skills and interests she already possessed
that could be applied to these positions. She envisioned herself in one of
these jobs, and felt her excitement grow.
With her list of possibilities to think about, Jane began an exploration
within herself. She took the time to consider what was important to her in
matters of: work environment, work function, and levels of responsibility
that she was willing to manage or accept. She considered issues, such as,
"Do I prefer working alone, or in a team?" "Do I prefer to work with few
functions and little change, or do I want variety?" "Do I like quiet
environments, or are active ones better for me?" "Do I aspire for a leadership
role, or do I want to support the leadership?" "Do I enjoy creative work?"
These issues were important to her happiness and success within the positions
she might someday accept, and helped her to better judge her choices in her
explore list ~ how these possible career selections measured up to her real
interests and needs. She also explored personal issues, and considered what
she was already good at. For example, Jane was very good at working with
numbers, but didn't particularly enjoy this aspect of her work. This meant she
probably wouldn't be satisfied with a position involving numbers, even though
she was proficient at this type of work. She considered other personal issues,
such as, "Would I be willing to relocate for a job?" "Would I be willing to
travel, and how much?" Choosing a sales position, for example, might require
more traveling than she wanted to do, or might be too disruptive to her
obligations at home. She decided which issues were non-negotiable for her and
which issues were more flexible. In knowing herself and what was important to
her, she avoided positions that might, years down the road, leave her once
again feeling stuck. She used this knowledge to further narrow down her list
to those positions that offered her the greatest potential for growth and long
term happiness.
Once Jane had developed a list of possible career paths, she began to feel
somewhat overwhelmed by the work she still had yet to do. It was exciting to
consider changing from an unhappy career path to a brighter career future, but
it felt daunting, too. To reinforce her belief that achieving her goals was
possible, she kept one simple truth in mind: CHANGE TAKES TIME. Nothing was
going to happen instantaneously, and she couldn't let time discourage her.
Instead, she decided that she'd enjoy the journey and let others help her. She
gave herself credit, too, because she was already on her way to recognizing
the possibilities and creating a new career future, instead of building walls.
Every goal has at least one path leading to it, often several. Jane began to
think of how she could discover these paths. First, she talked to people
currently doing the type of work she wanted to do, and learned how they got
there. This sounds scarier than it really is. . . most people enjoy talking
about themselves and are willing, often glad, to share their experiences with
others. She also talked to the people who hire the people doing the type of
work she wanted to do. She asked these hiring managers what skills and
experiences they look for in candidates they hire. She also asked them if they
could recommend "steppingstone" positions she could take now that would help
her to build skills and experiences she'd need for her future career goals.
Jane also talked to college counselors, career experts, and located members of
an industry related professional association. Through these contacts, Jane
gained a network of professionals who were interested in her commitment to
her future, and were willing to help her.
With all this information, Jane also knew she could depend on her own powers
of brainstorming to think of ways she could gain the skills and experiences
she needed to reach her goal. She knew what skills she currently possessed,
and she knew what skills she needed to gain. This allowed her to ascertain
steppingstone jobs that she could accept now. She thought of jobs that would
allow her to use what she already knew (for the benefit of a company or organization
that might hire her) but would also give her an opportunity to add, build, or
learn skills that she'd need for her future career plans. She was concerned
that she couldn't afford (financially) to leave her current job, and worried
that a temporary decrease in salary in a steppingstone job might create too
great of a burden on her resources and financial obligations. So, she considered
gaining the skills she needed through part-time work or by offering her
services to volunteer, charity, or other non-profit organizations. In this
way, she could offer her services for a few hours a week in exchange for an
opportunity to learn new skills or expand on the skills she already had. She
also considered an apprenticeship position, learning the ropes (even without
pay) along side a good mentor, shortening the path to her final destination in
this manner. Because she'd selected goals that were fulfilling, exciting, fun,
and challenging to her, she knew this learning process would be enjoyable, too.
She also realized that it could give her an early opportunity to learn whether
this type of work did, or *didn't* measure up to her expectations.
Today, Jane Doe finds herself eager to head for work, even on Monday mornings.
She hasn't reached her ultimate goal yet, but she's much closer to it. She's
doing work she enjoys, learning new skills, and feeling a sense of real
accomplishment. She's had to cut some corners to make the temporary decrease
in salary cover her bills, but she's never been happier. Her new coworkers
share her interests and appreciate her efforts. Her employer says she has a
lot of promise, and is glad she's on his team. Doing what she loves, she knows
her success has no limits. Now she encourages others to identify and pursue
their goals. She's frequently overheard telling her friends, family, and
acquaintances, "You just need to believe in yourself."
Good luck with your job search!
Sue Campbell
1st-writer.com
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